Eoin getting hair extensions and face painted at Legoland |
We have registered Eoin for our local elementary school which is just round the corner. However he was kid number 340 to register for that kindergarten year. The last few years there have been 8 elementary classes and so as you can imagine our local school is HUGE and not necessarily the best match for Eoin.
Side note - the Cupertino school district has been amazing and so helpful even though Eoin hasn't started in a state school yet.
Help the shark got me! |
Academics were never a concern for Eoin. There is no doubt that he is very very clever (so may have been bored at preschool). We were told after his academic assessment that he is very bright which has been reiterated a number of times since. So considering this we chose for this time at home to be focused on behaviour and on techniques that can help Eoin.
Eoin is amazing in identifying his emotions. He can tell you very clearly what he feels. What he cannot always do is find an appropriate reaction. No matter if it is a good emotion or a hard emotion Eoin struggles in displaying the emotion. If excited or overstimulated Eoin will very often squeal loudly or hit his forehead. If hurt he will cry heavily and if he sees blood well you have a major issue. If angry with people he knows he will hit, kick or even bite on occasion. This means that I am often covered in bruises. This sounds distressing and it is at the time but Eoin can reset so quickly that these reactions could occur many times a day.
Mommy and Eoin at Legoland with little pal Anthony which Eoin won at a target ball throwing game. |
To many this sounds like a hard time, a hard kid to help and parent but for us it is not. We see (as do many who know Eoin) the amazing love he has. He tries to hug all his teammates in soccer and basketball goodbye each week; there are often tears if he cannot give someone a hug; he cheers for his teammates and encourages them; he does not have a problem not winning and will often say I am glad you won because you are strongest at that and then he asks for their help to learn; he shares his toys pretty well with friends, he has amazing manners and Eoin tries something new everyday whether it is scary or not. Eoin is one of the most loving kids we know and so it is so hard to see hm struggle so much with emotions.
Eoin and Daddy checking out Lego on Easter morning. |
Saran I really appreciate you posting this. So many parents keep the struggles silent. We just had Hazel assessed today and she needs some interventions too. With you as his mama he will have the best advantages. Our son, a couple of years younger than Eoin has some of these struggles too. Very smart. I hope that you can have some Gifted and Talented specialists on your team (I am a GT teacher) for the IEP. They are focused on the special needs of high ability kids and understand the wholeness with which they experience emotions. I hope you all have a great start in August.
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